Eating pussy, also known as going down on someone, eating someone out or even licking someone out is definitely one of the most pleasurable things anyone with a vagina can receive from their partner—if done correctly. But this precise type of oral sex called cunnilingus is often disregarded by many, which leads to poor performance and, let’s just say, not a lot of turning on. If you’re looking to get better at giving head, then you’ve come to the right place because practice makes perfect! Here’s everything you’ll need to know in order to eat pussy right.

First things first, cunnilingus puts the focus on the clitoris, which is the source of great pleasure for many women (although it can depend on the person, some might prefer good ol’ penetration). Follow the steps below to become a master of the cunnilingus.

Imagine, things are getting steamy between you and your partner and you’ve got one thing in mind—and she probably does too—you want to give her head. That’s great but just telling her to take her pants off without leading to the moment might slightly affect the mood.

Instead, kiss your way south of the border. You can sometimes keep eye contact, or not. Go from her neck down to her pelvic region, remember to kiss her inner thighs just before, and that should be your destination point. You’ve reached the vulva!

This is a crucial step. You will need to find that clitoris, otherwise, what’s the point? In case you’re unsure of what that is, Cosmopolitan has beautifully described it as “that thing that feels like a bean on the top of the vertical roast beef sandwich,” which I hope will help.

Now, keep in mind that the clitoris has more nerve endings than the penis, which makes it ultra-sensitive. As the source of orgasms for most women and people with vaginas, it’s safe to say that the clitoris is pretty awesome.

If you know what you’re doing, which you will at the end of this article, you can make someone literally convulse with pleasure simply by touching that bean the right way. In order to do this, start by using your fingers to rub the clitoris in circle motions, softly (you can even go left then right to switch it up a bit).  Then, put your face in between the thighs of your partner.

Before you start licking the clitoris, heat things up by circling around it. Give her a bit of a tease. Lick only around the target for a bit and you’ll have your partner gagging for more in no time. That’s when you should go for it! Lick it up, down, left, right and make sure you’re putting the right amount of pressure on the clitoris—don’t be sloppy because that will not work, like ever.

Depending on what your partner likes, you could start off with a light touch of the tongue and build up the pressure or even play with your tongue on the clitoris and see how it goes. Some people like a pointy tongue, others like a flatter approach. Just test different approaches and look for positive and negative reactions, which brings me to my next point…

Sounds pretty obvious, yet many people seem to forget that the aim here is to get pleasure from giving pleasure, which means that you actually need to know how the other person feels! Make your life easier and just do it: ask if they like it. You’re bound to run into some different preferences, so there’s no right or wrong answer here. Once you’ve had the little chat, take the feedback into consideration, duh!

You might be down there for a while, so make sure things don’t get boring. While you’re licking away, use your hands to stimulate other parts of the vulva. While you shouldn’t neglect the clitoris, you can still run your fingers down their thighs, reach for their breasts or grab their hips. Just be creative!

Insert a finger into their vagina and wait to see if they’re into it. If so, move it in and out slowly and don’t be afraid to curl your finger up towards their stomach and massage it gently. You should be hitting the G-spot. Then, just switch it up some more!

While this is not a necessary step, using sex toys while going down on someone might help you make your partner cum easily. If they’re okay with it use a vibrator on their clitoris or a good old rabbit vibrator.

Let me be clear on this point: not everyone will reach climax, and that is perfectly fine. Having no orgasm doesn’t mean it wasn’t pleasurable. If they do feel like they’re getting close, make sure you keep on doing whatever you were doing—do not stop.

These are the main things you should be keeping in mind. I hope that it will help you but whatever happens, remember that every person is different, which means someone might not like the same exact things someone else absolutely loves. After all, giving head is an art you’ll have to constantly learn from, so make sure you have fun too!