This Threeway Day, let’s just admit it: we all fantasise about having a threesome

By Alma Fabiani

Published Mar 3, 2021 at 09:30 AM

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Today, 3 March, marks what is known as Threeway Day—an opportunity to, you guessed it, celebrate threesome experiences for some, or at least consider having one for others. And what better way to do so than by getting started on the dating app Feeld, which was originally created as a threesome dating app and recently launched a feature created to connect people looking to experiment?

According to founder and host of the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast, Doctor Justin Lehmiller, who previously wrote a fascinating introductory guide to threesomes for Feeld, participating in one is actually one of the most popular sexual fantasies. And let’s be honest here, we’ve all thought about it at one time or another.

This Threeway Day, let’s just admit it: we all fantasise about having a threesome

This fact is also backed up by Feeld’s recent findings: after looking at its users’ #1 desire, the dating app reported threeways being the desire most mentioned. To be more precise, 37 per cent of singles on the app said they were looking to experience a threeway, while 59 per cent of couples stated the same.

On top of that, while many might expect threesomes to be some douchey frat boy’s ultimate fantasy—which it probably is—Feeld also reported that in 2020, 40 per cent of women on its app were interested in having one, while 38 per cent of men did so too.

Yet, when it comes to finding someone who previously experienced a threesome, things suddenly get much harder. For reasons that are somewhat understandable, many still associate threeways as a fantasy interlinked with misogyny and backwards-thinkers. If you’re not sure what I’m talking about, take any 90s romantic comedy featuring a (usually borderline sexual predator) jock and they’ll most definitely have a short line where they mention their threesome fantasy involving two girls, but not with another guy, because ‘that shit’s gay man’. You get the picture.

This Threeway Day, let’s just admit it: we all fantasise about having a threesome

But it’s 2021 now, and it’s about time we accept the fact that threeways are not a fantasy limited to sexist men—and it’s time for us to bridge the gap between fantasy and reality. How, you ask? That’s where Feeld comes in. Focusing on the virtual possibilities to act on the desires showcased by its members, the app’s new virtual location feature ‘Remote Trios’ is dedicated to enabling couples and singles to connect and play together remotely as a way to realise their threesome fantasy.

Feeld’s feature offers to connect users with like-minded members—and boy did the dating app see a lot of those! Last year, couple sign-ups and pairing profiles increased by a fifth and currently make up one-third of all Feeld members. The ‘Remote Trios’ feature is part of the company’s continuing attempt to enable intimate exploration, even during a global pandemic.

“Even if it’s not your favourite fantasy, it’s something that most people appear to have thought about before, with 95 per cent of men and 87 per cent of women saying they’ve had a threeway fantasy at some point,” explained Doctor Lehmiller. “A virtual threesome is a way to test the waters, have a novel and exciting experience, and practice communication, while also staying safe during a global pandemic. Most people don’t have any experience with multi-partner dynamics, so having some practice can help you figure out whether a real-life threesome might be right for you.”

Two of the biggest obstacles people face when it comes to turning those fantasies into reality are not having a willing partner and being too afraid about it to actually do it. Considering these barriers, Feeld’s ‘Remote Trios’ sounds like the perfect solution—one that is both safe and, you have to admit, pretty damn sexy.

This Threeway Day, let’s look at things the way they are: although the COVID-19-induced lockdowns may potentially disappear altogether on 20 June, that still seems to be in a while. Most of us have been locked up indoor, forced to be alone and chaste.

Well, this Threeway Day, let’s move on from the boring binge-watchers we’ve turned into, and let’s focus on having some (safe) fun. Chances are, you’ve already thought about experimenting with threesomes and merely needed a push. Today is the sign you’ve been looking for, the temporary solution to keep you satisfied until 20 June crawls around. Still not convinced? Check out those threesome stories from Feeld users.

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