While some would say they never lost it in the first place, tarot cards are finding their spotlight again—and no, you don’t have to be a TikTok witch to own a pack of them. The earliest recorded decks originated from Europe, and have been around since the mid-15th century. Only in the 18th century were they used for the prophetic purposes that most know them to be today, but they were actually intended to be a fun parlor game. Between those that think all tarot card readers are bonkers, to those that carry a handy pack in their back pockets, are a lot of us, who dip their toes in here and there just for fun. So what are they really, and how can beginners read tarot cards?

First and foremost, tarot cards are just a pack of cards with different pictures on them. Those pictures represent a meaning, and aesthetic styles vary infinitely—so when finding the right pack for you, find a style that makes sense to you intuitively, as you’ll need to decipher the meanings after all. The most well known tarot deck is the Rider-Waite tarot deck. Each tarot deck traditionally comes with a little book that explains each of the cards that you pick, so you won’t be completely in the dark there.

Whether you’re reading the tarot cards for yourself or for someone else (also called the ‘the querent’), there are two common ways of reading and displaying the deck but bear in mind that again you should tailor it to suit the way it feels right to you. There are question readings, and there are open readings. Question readings address a specific question that you ask before displaying the cards, not a yes or no question however, as tarots are intended to help you face what it is that you need to confront within yourself.

So you will either be displayed a randomly selected few cards onto a table or flat surface, or just one card (this comes down to preference, there are many different card spread suggestions out there if you want to look into it) and the purpose of the cards is to sit with whatever thoughts that the turned over card evokes towards the question that you asked, and in this action you yourself will answer your own question.

Open readings are just that, you shuffle and display one or more cards and again address whatever emotions or thoughts that the cards evoke in you—with the help of the explanation pamflet that will summarise each of the cards intended meaning. The real trick to this practice is to have a very open mind, really wipe your thoughts clean.

A deck display that is mostly used if you do want a suggestion to start you off is a three card spread, which is where the reader (you or someone else) pulls three cards from the deck at random. Usually, the first card that you pick represents the past, the second represents the present, and the third card represents the future. You could also do a simple daily reading, where you pull a single card from the shuffled deck, in doing this you’ll practice simply becoming more in tune with your thoughts.

Depending on what tarot deck that you choose to use, despite each being different, they all have overriding commonalities, for example with the Rider-Waite-Smith deck, there are two main types of tarot cards, the Minor Arcana and the Major Arcana.

The Minor Arcana cards have four suits, just like regular playing cards but these are wands (which focus on inspiration, tasks, goals, and creativity), cups (think emotions, relationships and feelings) swords (are all about reason, truths, and observations) and pentacles (representing material items, careers, or your home life). These cards deal with the more day-to-day issues and questions, the subtleties of life if you will, that we need to pay more attention to.

The Major Arcana cards deal with your life’s overall journey, or big milestones that you encounter on it. They represent the life lessons, karmic influences and the big archetypal themes that are influencing your life. These cards are also known as ‘trump cards’ and include numbered cards and one unnumbered card, ‘the Fool’, who is in a way the main character of the Arcana cards. The picture shown on that card is of a young man standing on the edge of a cliff but gazing upwards toward the sky (and the Universe), seemingly unaware that he is about to skip off a precipice into the unknown.

The cards in this particular deck are also read differently depending on how they fall, in this instance, if the Fool is seen the correct way up, then it represents new beginnings, opportunity and potential over the cliffs edge. If it is upside down, it means you might not be ready to embark on a new project, or that you have worries on whether you have all the tools, resources and confidence you need to make the project a success. Either way the card lands, it can be helpful in allowing your insecurities or feelings to surface, as you are now, in a sense, being asked by the card to question your thoughts towards something that is going on in your life.

The important and most useful part of wanting to read tarot cards is the power they have to allow our own minds the reflection and meditation that the fast-paced world of today sometimes strips us of. The cards have even been used alongside therapy, as Inna Semetsky, PhD from Columbia University told Cosmopolitan magazine “Tarot cards are universally applicable and can create a visualization of your situation, once you see things laid out, it becomes clear what you actually want. They help you externalize your problems.” And the Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung went as far as saying that tarot cards could be used to represent the “archetypes of mankind.”

Reading tarot cards doesn’t mean you’re psychic, remember that your future will always remain changeable and unknown—this should feel exciting, but when it does feel daunting, there’s no harm having a little tarot help to remind you what you want from life!

Feng shui is a pseudoscience that was developed in China around 6000 B.C. It is based on the belief that how we arrange our homes, directed by a few principles, allows us to utilise, observe and fuse energy (chi) of different kinds into our daily lives. Our ‘home’ refers to any space we inhabit, which includes ourselves. Could we use the same principles we apply to physical spaces in order to better our external relationships as well? Yes, I’m talking about your dating life as well as your friendships.

We know that what’s going on inside affects our reaction to our environment—in feng shui, the house is viewed as a whole being in which one part is intricately connected to the other. The same theory can be expanded to other aspects of our lives. In The Field, author Lynne Mctaggart reveals that the human mind and body are not separate from their environment, which implies that all matter in the universe is connected on the subatomic level through a constant dance of quantum energy exchange. To put it simply, what you are, even your thoughts, are quite literally what the world around you is too. Beautiful, right?

Respect seems to be at the core of any successful relationship; we should strive to allow another person to be and do as they like as a separate being. But for there to be good energy—good vibes, if you will—there has to be balance on the scale of mutual give and take. Humans are separate beings, like objects in a sense, with their own doors, hideaways, dust and purpose. Like feng shui, we use things like light and darkness, joy or sadness, on a daily basis to navigate the atmospheres we choose to surround ourselves in.

There are five elements that feng shui divides the world into: wood, which symbolises growth and creativity; earth is for stability and balance; metal relates to logic and intelligence; water is linked to wisdom and serenity, and fire to passion and energy.

So how does feng shui relate to romantic love in particular? I was having a conversation with a friend about how we use parts of people to fulfil a whole ideal. Have you ever used a dating app? Been there, done that. You find someone that’s downright perfect, on paper. You wear your good lingerie, or no lingerie—you bring your fire, because you’ve been date shopping for a while and why not, you’re excited. They’re excited too (one would hope). But then, your fingers reach for that app again, and whoops, you’re still shopping. Your perfect date is probably still out shopping as well. Why is that? And, more importantly, what in the world are you two looking for, exactly?

This is when the other four elements come into play. First impressions do fizzle out; fire needs earth to keep it alight. I’m thinking if it’s not a ‘hell yeah’ now, it’s probably a ‘no, thanks’ down the line, but should that be the case? Is the increase in ‘choice’ pushing us towards polyamory? Is it us simply fulfilling a whole ideal, built by parts?

What we tend to look for mostly—maybe I’m just speaking for myself here—is someone to, first of all, allow you to be you, allow you to change who that ‘you’ is, and then love you anyway without too many questions. Nobody wants to be bored, either, but an excess of passion and noise becomes chaos.

Unfortunately in love, we can’t just build a relationship into being. We can’t nudge a chair here, knock a wall down there or push a lamp into a darker corner to create a feeling. A room is much more forgiving than another person when it comes to manipulation. The curated projection of what is right in a physical space is customised only to your preference, it comes from one side only. The furniture doesn’t talk back. But to feng shui with a lover is to, theoretically, dance without bumping into another’s customised preferences.

If we could build a person perfectly suited to us, then we would have done that already, although probably the wrong way. Only you are perfectly suited for you, but we can do our best to bring out the positive energy (chi) from the world around us. That’s the whole point of feng shui—decluttering instead of emotionally consuming and accumulating beyond our needs.

Have a good old feel for what doesn’t feel right, and let go of it. Subatomic energy exchange, remember? It won’t get lost, it’ll just find somewhere else to settle. You could walk through a house blindfolded to see what needs moving, but we have to rely on our intuition. ‘Feng’ means wind, ‘shui’ means water. These two elements flow around the world. In a way, it’s comforting to think that nothing stays still, not even ‘nothing’ stays still—even in the vacuum that’s outside of our world.

There is something called Zero-point-energy, which is the lowest possible energy that a quantum mechanical system might have. The zero point of a vacuum is not zero due to fluctuations in electromagnetic waves, which means energy is still being passed from one thing to another—an atom will never bump into the same one again. If the universe can let go, I’m sure we can too.

Open your doors and windows, let all the waves run through you. Make sure the light gets in. Then, address the elements. What and who allows you to grow, to trust, who makes you want to rip your clothes off, who listens to your silence and your noise? We can apply this to one relationship, or multiple. I may be ripping this apart a little bit, so take from it what you will, and I will too.