The quest for ultimate orgasm never ends. We all dream of one, but only a few can reach it. Does it have to be that way, though? After all, we’re (almost) all having or had sex—and I don’t know about you, but I’m certainly planning on getting some this Valentine’s Day. It shouldn’t be that hard to reach the climax of your dreams, right?

Well, the answer is more complicated than most people think. Sure, some couples have a fantastic sex life from the very start. In most cases, though, reaching an intimate sexual connection takes time and experience.

Keep in mind that Rome wasn’t built in a day and that everything can be fixed. Your sex life is not an exception to these two rules. To help you with that, we’ve prepared the following guide. Below, you’ll find some useful tips on how to maximise your sexual pleasure and take your orgasms to the next level this Valentine’s Day.

The worst thing that can happen is falling into a sex routine. Unfortunately, it’s something that many relationships, especially long-term ones, experience. To avoid that, you need to experiment. Fortunately, when it comes to sex, there is a load of things you may try.

For instance, using toys can be a great way to make your orgasms more intense and fun. And if you’ve already tried that and are looking for ways to make things kinkier, why not investing in a sex doll? What about a sex simulator?

Sure, it may sound a little extreme, but hear us out: sex dolls, like the ones from Silicon Wives, can be a great addition to your bedroom. For example, if you’ve always dreamed of having a threesome, practising on your doll can save you a lot of awkward conversations with your friends. Besides toys and dolls, you can also try out different positions, role-play, or bondage. A good idea can also be to take your sex outside the bedroom.

It’s tempting to skip foreplay and get straight down to business, but if there is one thing to know about sex, it is that you should take your time. You shouldn’t underestimate the power of foreplay, as it’s often key to sexual pleasure.

Your foreplay should include kissing, touching, and caressing. You can also include oral sex to make things spicy and prepare each other for some intense lovemaking. Tell your partner what turns you on and listen to them telling you the same. Taking your time to learn each other’s bodies leads to much more enjoyable and intense sex!

If you’re not entirely sure what you want from your partner, a great idea is to first learn a thing or two about your body. Find out what turns you on and gives you an orgasm. Then, use that knowledge to tell your partner what they need to do.

Some people believe that masturbation isn’t something positive, but self-stimulation is an integral part of learning how to be better in bed. Think of it as a practice before the game—a rehearsal to explore what you like and how you feel.

Sex is a team sport. Only by cooperating can you and your partner maximise your orgasms. That’s why you need to remember that your partner’s desires should be equal to yours. You might think it’s not related, but knowing that the other person has as much fun as you can lead to a more fulfilling sexual act. Focus on giving your partner pleasure, and you’ll receive the same love.

Don’t forget that sex is not just about physical, but also mental connection. And it’s the latter that usually leads to a more satisfying feeling.

It’s a well-known fact that the healthier you are, the better your sex. If you’re in good shape, your orgasms and overall pleasure will improve, as you’ll be able to last longer in bed. However, it’s not only your physical shape you should worry about. Your head plays a crucial role in your sexual performance. For instance, anxiety and depression can lead to erectile dysfunction, hurting a person’s self-esteem and confidence.

With that in mind, you should do everything possible to take care of your well-being. Exercise regularly, maintain a healthy diet and seek professional help if needed.

Sex without orgasm is like a muffin without filling: it tastes ok, but something’s missing. The thing is, though, many factors can affect your bed adventure, both negatively and positively. The first thing to know is that it usually takes time to get to know each other. Chances are you won’t receive the sexual pleasure you want at the beginning of your relationship, but it doesn’t mean you have to break up.

Sometimes, even long-term couples really struggle with satisfying sex. Fortunately, as you can see, there’s a lot of ways to maximise your sexual pleasure. Considering them all is a great start when trying to make things better. Explore new things, understand how your body works, and how your partner might feel about certain experiences. The quest for pleasure is a long journey, but it’s up to you and the person you love to get what you want. So why not try to do so on Valentine’s Day?