Since 2011, November has been a dark and damned month for many around the world—for those who are actually gullible enough to obey the laws of internet trends, that is. Let me cut to the chase a little bit here in order to spare you from painfully waiting around more than you have to. With the month of November also comes No Nut November, which means that there will be no nut nibbles for anybody, or at least for some—and no, it isn’t actually about avoiding the ‘pick and mix’ section.
No Nut November (NNN) is an internet challenge that came about from the #NoFap movement (a community for those who want or feel they should stop watching pornography or stop masturbating), which itself originated from the subreddit NoFap, and it involves guys and penis-havers to hold off from masturbating for the entire month of November.
The drive for many participating in the challenge is to wean themselves off of their addiction to pornography, but others believe that ‘storing up’ their semen will make them more magnetic to women or more powerful. Whatever the incentive may be for ejaculation, or ‘busting a nut’ (hence the name) to not take place must be enough, because the annual event still takes place year after year, unfortunately.
The rules are simple: you musn’t have sex or masturbate. If you’ve got a hard-on, it’s tough luck chum. Surprisingly, watching porn is allowed, but why would you do that to yourself? You are allowed to have one wet dream (accidents happen), just one though. Overall, the challenge is aimed to test the limits of participants and their ability to withhold orgasming for 30 days. Is this really worth the cause, and is there no better way around it?
#NoNutNovember presents the risk (if not done so already) of branding sex and masturbation as disgracesful, which is arguably one of the roots to addiction in the firstplace. If someone feels like they must hide or become abstinent from a behaviour, shame will more likely than not be a side of it, and to live in shame is not sustainable or constructive. Thanks to social media platforms, shaming is not only present, but present publicly, especially when it comes to internet challenges that are rooted in insecurity, like NNN.
There are many different iterations of masturbation and orgasm abstinence, No Nut November and NoFap are just two of them, but the lines between them get blurry. Tenants of the two groups are different, aside from the basic rule that each of them follow. NoFap claims to be a sexual health platform with the goal of helping people who want to quit masturbation or avoid pornography for health reasons. NNN on the other hand focuses on a temporary challenge of not nutting (orgasming) instead of the health reasons included in NoFap.
Within online communities like NoFap and NNN, there have been connections between the far-right, racism, white nationalism, anti-semitism, and anti-masturbation or anti-porn beliefs. For example, the far-right organisation Proud Boys has a severe anti-masturbation stance. There also appears to be a large amount of involuntary celibates (incels), which is a community of men who resent women for denying them sex. They especially hate certain clothing that women wear that they consider to be part of a woman’s agenda to keep men in a perpetual state of horniness. Ridiculous and quite far fetched if you ask me.
At the end of the day, a challenge that requires celibacy from its participants is fundamentally different to Sober October or Movember, for example. One will leave you just the way you came into this world, not drunk, and the other will simply forbid you from doing exactly what brought you into this world, and will probably leave you a little sensitive (or a lot). The fact of the matter is, addictions of any kind should not be tempered with via endangering social challenges, especially those that are subject to threatening and shameful commentary.