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Rate My Date: The one where he fell asleep 20 minutes in

Keep your friends close and your internet besties closer. Introducing Rate My Date, a weekly venting session where indecisive singles share their first-date stories in exchange for some well-needed honesty. Will there be a second date on the cards? Your call.

Name: Nicki
Pronouns: She/her
Age: 26
Occupation: Video editor
Dating history: Pretty minuscule
Looking for: Someone who can match my energy

It was my first date ever in life (and it’ll most likely be my last for at least several years). I’d made the decision to meet up with this guy I didn’t really know. He was also a few years older than me but not so much so that I thought it would be a massive issue.

We went to Westfield in Stratford and he took me to the cinema. I’m a massive Tango Ice Blast girlie and so was more than happy to watch a movie. We met in the middle of the shopping centre and despite the fact that he was significantly shorter than me, I liked his energy and I found it super easy to chat with him and make jokes.

We got into the screening room, found our seats and waited for the ads to finish. At this point, everything was going smoothly. We weren’t extra chatty but that kind of comes with the territory when you’re going to the movies.

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About 20 minutes into the film, I noticed that I could hear a deep rumbling snore. I looked back at the rows of seats behind me, thinking it was coming from someone sitting there. Turns out, it was actually coming from my left—my date was fully knocked out, head back, his mouth wide open, snoring so loud it sounded like it was coming from the cinema’s sound system.

Completely panicked and unsure of what to do, I tried nudging him a couple of times, to no success. Although no one in the room said anything, it literally took less than five minutes for the ushers to come in with their flashlights and kick us out. Having to do the walk of shame out of the theatre was something I will quite literally never forget.

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I obviously don’t blame or resent him for snoring (although I have to admit that it might become an issue if we ever spend the night together), but I do think he could have made an effort to stay awake during our first date.

When we left the cinema, he apologised and told me that he had barely gotten any sleep the night before. He nicely offered to buy me dinner instead, but I was so mortified by this initial flop that I recommended he go home instead.

It’s now been three days since we met and I’m yet to hear from him. I know I might have given him mixed signals but he fell asleep on our first date. I also know that I could text him first instead of waiting by the phone, but again, he’s the one who dozed off on our first date. Is he too embarrassed to reach out again? Did he lie about being tired in the first place and actually just found me incredibly boring?

I can’t tell, but I’d like to figure it out somehow, perhaps on a second date. So, should I reach out?

Final say, final vote:

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Rate My Date: The one where he got roped into a drag performance

Keep your friends close and your internet besties closer. Introducing Rate My Date, a weekly venting session where indecisive singles share their first-date stories in exchange for some well-needed honesty. Will there be a second date on the cards? Your call.

Name: Jojo
Pronouns: She/Her
Age: 21
Occupation: Masters student
Dating history: Lots of frogs
Looking for: Someone with tattoos and a membership to the Tate Modern

So, after having finally escaped from the complete train-wreck that is university romance, I entered my 21st year looking to have fun and meet people who were more on my level, and not solely interested in the student union dance floor.

I matched with a short king on Hinge and after briefly exchanging niceties, we set a date to visit the local Wetherspoons—romantic, I know. Anyways, the conversation was good—£4 gin and tonics to thank for that—and after knocking knees under the table for an hour or so, we decided to try out a new bar across the road.

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We walked straight into a flamboyant yet intimate Drag performance. At first glance we telepathically agreed that potentially this wasn’t the most ideal ‘getting to know each other’ setting but before we had a chance to slip out the door we were acknowledged by the drag queen on stage, welcomed and set at the only free table. Naturally, the last seats left were placed directly in front of centre stage. You can see where this is going…

Despite not meaning to fall upon a live performance, we were immediately gripped. A talent show began and pretty soon we were having the best time, laughing together and screaming in admiration for the incredible performers.

Then came the comedy round—now, this is where things became truly memorable. Naturally, when it was announced that they’d be plucking a drag virgin out of the crowd to dance with onstage, I knew that my date was in trouble. And I was right.

They scooped him up, publicly acknowledging the fact that as a straight white man it was his duty and responsibility to play along—I mean, c’mon, it was the least he could do. And, to give him credit, he took it in his stride and smiled as the queens squeezed his muscles, licked his ear, and finally stripped his t-shirt off. To be completely honest, I think he quite liked it.

Time to vote again, how’s it looking so far?

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We walked home together, laughing and reminiscing on the events of the evening. He didn’t seem to be too scarred by the experience and, for me, it was a serious green flag to see him take it in his stride. We’ve been messaging a little bit since and I’m really keen for another date but I wanted to check what the internet’s thoughts were. Is this guy too good to be true?

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